What They Don’t Tell You About Libido After 40

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: your sex drive. More specifically, what happens to it during (and after) menopause — and why so many women feel like something is wrong with them.

Here’s the truth: there’s nothing wrong with you. If your libido has shifted, you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault.

Why Libido Changes in Menopause

As estrogen and testosterone levels drop, your body naturally produces less lubrication and experiences changes in blood flow. That can lead to discomfort during intimacy, lower sensitivity, and yes — a noticeable dip in desire.

Add in the emotional changes (anxiety, fatigue, body image shifts), and it’s no wonder things feel different. But it’s not about you doing something wrong — it’s your body asking for a different kind of support.

You Deserve Pleasure — At Every Age

Sexual wellness during menopause isn’t just about intimacy with a partner. It’s about reconnecting with your own body, your confidence, and your sense of self.

At Bella Unspoken, we carry gentle, body-safe products designed specifically for sensitive skin and shifting hormones. From lubricants and oils to toys that support solo or partnered play, everything we offer is about helping you feel safe, comfortable, and empowered.

We believe pleasure is part of wellness. Full stop. And just because your body has changed doesn’t mean desire has to disappear.

Let Go of the Shame

Society doesn’t make it easy to talk about sex — especially after 40. But we’re here to challenge that. You deserve joy, intimacy, and connection. And if that looks different now than it did 10 years ago, that’s okay. It’s still yours to claim.

So no, it’s not your fault. And no, it’s not too late.
You’re not broken — you’re just becoming.